Balinese Marriage

Many Balinese marriages are still being negotiated or predetermined, although young men can also "kidnap" their wives, and the mixed-caste marriages are becoming more common. Marriage customs of different caste to caste and village to village, but all practices of marriage Balinese share basic similarities. There are basically two ways to get married in Bali, "ngerorod 'and' mapadik."

Ngerorod
This is the marriage of escape, in which the pre-honeymoon before the wedding ceremony. Since the other quite expensive to marry in Bali, "ngerorod 'is becoming more and more popular. It has particular appeal to the Balinese sense of theater. Balinese love a dramatic kidnapping in which friends of the capture of a suitor Women in the Field, on the road, or down by the river. Theatrical are paramount: it is expected to bite and kick their abductors in mock self-defense.

These days it is more elegant and fashionable for women to be whisked away in a hired sedan, and more often than not going voluntarily. The couple then repair to a friend's house stocked with provisions, offers, and the bride's wardrobe. The woman's enraged father to the sounds of alarm has been demanding to know what her daughter. The search party was organized to lose time and again exhausted.

Meanwhile, the couple before consummating the marriage of special offers (sesayut tabuh RAH) have the time to wilt. These offers only make the marriage law. Visit emissaries of the bride groom's father to argue the merits of the union. Begrudgingly, the father of the girl gave in, after a suitable bride price has been agreed. The father of the groom should finance and perform the marriage ceremony, to welcome the bride as a new daughter in the family. The royal wedding of the public within 42 days of the kidnapping on the scene, is only a formal confirmation of their union. They are already married in the eyes of the gods.

Mapadik
This is the marriage by consent, in which an upper class performs a couple of formal courtship. Since daughters were once regarded as useful assets for the achievement of a family social and political objectives, high-caste families sought Wednesday of a son to the daughter of a friend or relative for a blood bond that unites the resources of both families.

Under no circumstances a woman "to marry", ie a commoner. The preferred marriage is through a parallel Patri-cousin, the brother of the father of her daughter. It has been observed that Triwangsa couples often take as well because all are first cousins.

Traditionally, the man or the travel of his father three times a girlfriend's house with food and "sirih. 'When the family visits the bride, the groom's father is obliged to give them food,' sirih 'is chewing (a ancient ritual means of reaching an agreement), and presents are exchanged. The groom then regularly visits the home of his girlfriend possible, the presentation of gifts and services for the performance of his future father-in-law.

The groom's family organizes and pays for the wedding, the date set well in advance at a propitious day. Wedding guests are often entertained by professional storytellers and musicians. Enormously rules governing dining and seating arrangements. Sometimes, the family of the bride is not even invited.

The actual ceremony varies. It could be very simple and short, chaired by a common temple "pemangku ', or can be elaborate, expensive, and go all day. Both the bride and groom dressed in bright' songket ', brocades with gold thread, and the woman's hair is decorated with flowers of bright gold.

Usually, the bride and groom offer a meal to another, and then simulate chores such as washing, cooking rice, and the cutting of bamboo. Prayers are intoned, and then the couple will eat together in public, feeding each other. This is an important symbolic act, as in ancient times only married men and women were allowed to eat food together in public. The priest performed a ritual of purification and bless the couple. Neither Rice nor flowers are thrown. Today, it could very well be a Western-style buffet reception was held after the speeches were given by members of both families.

Married life
After the wedding, the bride leaves her new man behind the linkages and officially becomes a member of the group of relatives of the husband and caste, in the service of the new family of the gods. The couple lives in the house of the parents of the husband during the early years, relations with his own family can be broken.

The woman owns all of its clothing, jewelry, household utensils, pigs and chickens, and often has its own income from the sale of property market. Inheritance is invariably passed along the male line, the man owns the house, fields of rice, livestock, and their tools, and is responsible for managing money.

Polygamy among the aristocracy was once widespread but now it is very rare. At a time when the wife of a prince could have different levels of status in the 'Puri', depending on whether their caste and is classified as first, second, third or fourth wife. The prince usually does not even appear in their wedding ceremony with a low caste girl, was formally married to his' Kris', or a tree.

A man may be a divorce granted by the authorities of the village where his wife is lazy, quarrelsome, adulterous, or sterile, whereas a woman can divorce her husband simply by leaving your home if it is cruel, under a occult power, or impotent.